A blog by Katie Cruz
Re: Coming out to someone. I know often when we first come to the realization that we’re MAPs, we want to come out to the world and get it off of our chest. I know several MAPs who have felt that way, myself included. I made the mistake of coming out to everyone I knew
I was watching Justice League a little bit ago. There’s a scene where The Flash saves this family who’s vehicle stalled while they were trying to escape from danger. He has a moment with this little girl. Couldn’t speak much of her language, but he awkwardly said hi to her. I know it wasn’t intended
If you could choose to stay the same age forever would you go for it? Which age would you pick? I’d love to be 13 forever. It’s the age where little girls are still beautiful, but you also get more freedom than a younger child, but still not the full responsibility of being an adult.
Are you more romantically or sexually attracted to children? 95% Maternal/Romantic, 5% Sexual for me. Being a grey asexual, I’m just not all that into sex. I have to be deeply in love and emotionally attached to have a sexual attraction. I see many little girls, out in public, or through pics online and TV
Minor attraction is an orientation. It is a hardwired attraction, usually discovered around puberty, just like other orientations such as heterosexuality and homosexuality. Many mental health professionals have called minor attraction an orientation. The DSM-5 states that if the subject doesn’t act illegally on their sexual feelings for minors, and is not distressed by those
How do you express love to someone? And what expression of love are you most receptive to? Take the quiz to determine your love language: 5 Languages of Love Physical Touch Acts of Service Words of Affirmation Receiving Gifts Quality Time _________________________ My result: I kind of already knew that touch is my language of
My thoughts on this article: The complicated research behind pedophilia – USA Today There’s a lot of problematic rhetoric in the article from both Dr Cantor, and Anna Salter. I wish other, less controversial, MAP researchers would talk to the media instead of Cantor. He continues to perpetuate outdated stereotypes. I hate how the article
Sometimes that’s all we can do. Love them and leave a good impression on them, so when they grow up and look back, they hold no contempt for us. If I’ve done that, then I’m successful, as bittersweet as it may be.
I made the decision to not let society define me. I know my character. I know I’m not the things society says I am. I know I didn’t choose this orientation. Once you realize that, you’ll be free.
We can’t choose our thoughts and feelings; only our actions. If you know in your mind that you wish no harm, that you have no bad intentions. If you have feelings of love and nurture, you are not a monster. If you know and accept your character, no one can take that away from you